This year's superbowl came and went. Woopeee. My friends once more bitched and moaned about how they didn't win on any of the pools. The commercials this year were kinda weak as well (except for the E-Trade talking babies, pretty funny).
So the game is done, most were packing away left overs and here I was, sitting on the couch with a few of my friend's girlfriend's girlfriends (quite a mouthful, I know). So I'm minding my own business, trying to finish my bowl of chili when the next TV program comes on. The show's called "Undercover Boss," about a CEO of a big company going undercover and infiltrating his company's various divisions to see what things are working and which parts need to be improved upon. Out of nowhere, I just blurted out, "Oh, it's just like Henry V," not realizing that I had said it out loud. The rest of the girls looked at me all funny, so for edification's sake I began explaining the literary connection, then I realized halfway through it that I was glaringly tooting my Geek horn loud and clear. So I bailed, took another piece of carrot stick, crammed it in my mouth and sank back down into the futon and pretended that I didn't care.
But it was too late. I can clearly see that I have said too much, judging by the dazed and confused look on their faces. Went over their heads like a big, fat airplane. Why can't I control my inner geek?!
Song of the day: "When The Saints Go Marchin' In" - Louis Armstrong & Danny Kaye
3 comments:
Because maybe you're not suppose to? It might seem embarassing, but let's look at in the long run - maybe they were hot/cute/funny, but if you are going to be happy with them in the long run, you're going to want to be able to not spend your life time explaining everything - every refence, every thing you might laugh at or think is genius. You're going to want to go into a gallery, an exhibt, a sports game, wherever, whenever and feel like the person is on a remotely similar connection level.
That was the major failing with BV - we had no intellectual connection - I would start to reference something and realize that even if I explained it and he understood it wouldn't really click. That is really much more depressing then being smarter than those around you.
PS You could also consider that they were surprised by your knowledge, I normally get quiet when I know someone knows a whole lot more than I do - all the while respecting them for it.
Embrace your inner or exposed geek someone out there will appreciate it.
When will men ever learn that smarts are sexy, and a dash of wisdom with a hint of cheeky is even better? The fact that your friend's girlfriends' girlfriends weren't on that wavelength is simply proved by the fact that they were at a SuperBowl party. (Nothing good comes from that.)
There are WAY too many guys out there who think they are smart and who are actually wise-asses, and believe me, it's not your ass that I want to be wise.
Embrace the geekdom. Believe me. I even have a button that says "talk nerdy to me." The problem for you (if there is one) might in fact be that you lack self-confidence because you feel your geekdom is somehow undesirable, and I assure you that it's usually the lack of confidence that's the turn-off, not the geekiness.
The other possibility is that your comment was a bit random, and I find that nothing can derail a conversation like a random comment that nobody knows what to do with. That doesn't mean it's your fault, it just means you are swimming with the wrong crowd.
I think it's far more attractive when a guy is not just knowledgable but good with the social skills too, but the advertising only gets through if you have confidence. I have observed that single guys in general are embarassed easily, and it can be really hard to appear confident when you are afraid of being embarassed in front of other people. You just gotta learn how to laugh off the "random" moments and learn to be a geek proudly. There are a lot of girls like me out there, "single girl seeks geek." Regardless of your lit references, just learn to laugh it off and you'll soon have no trouble at all attracting the ladies.
Thanks for the vote of confidence, you guys. It really was no big deal, tho. I just felt sheepish because I got caught making an obtuse reference. S&P, I think you're right by saying that they were just surprised...not probably by my knowledge, but maybe more by the obscure reference. Josie, you're absolutely correct. Confidence does go a long way, no matter what.
Overall, I think I just got way too verbose for a casual setting and maybe felt like I got caught by showing off what I know...which was not the case. Did not mean for you girls to get riled up. The girls in the party are good people and weren't mean-spirited at all. They were just caught off guard. We laughed about it during commercial.
Sorry if I painted the wrong picture about the situation. I was going more for the "I'm a geek and I can't deny it" feel to my blog.
Trust me, I'd be cursing a lot more in here if I felt slighted in any way (which is actually a good indication of how I feel about the subject of any blog).
Wow, I feel so happy you two got my back on this! You're like my posse from another country! Thanks so much for the ego boost and assist! You both rock!
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